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Antiracism & Decolonization

  • Decolonizing Trauma Work: Indigenous Stories and Strategies

  • The Sum of Us: What Racism Costs Everyone and How We Can Prosper Together

  • How to Be an Antiracist

  • Anti-Racist Psychotherapy: Confronting Systemic Racism and Healing Racial Trauma

Communication & Boundaries

  • The Boundaries Flip Chart: A Psychoeducational Tool to Help Clients Set Healthy Limits, Develop Fulfilling Relationships, and Reclaim Their Worth

  • Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes are High, Third Edition

  • Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself

Complex PTSD

  • Healing the Shame that Binds You

  • Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors: Overcoming Internal Self-Alienation

  • Transforming The Living Legacy of Trauma: A Workbook for Survivors and Therapists

  • Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving: A Guide and Map for Recovering from Childhood Trauma

  • The Complex PTSD Workbook

Grief Healing

  • How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed: A Journal for Grief

  • It's OK That You're Not OK

Inner-Child Healing

  • Inner Bonding: Becoming a Loving Adult to Your Inner Child

  • The Inner Child Workbook: What to do with your past when it just won't go away

  • Healing The Child Within: Discovery and Recovery for Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families

Intimacy, Relationships, & Sex Therapy

  • The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity

  • Where Should We Begin? Conversation Card Game for Couples

  • Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life

  • She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman

  • Love Worth Making: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship

  • Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters--And How to Get It

  • The Multi-Orgasmic Man: Sexual Secrets Every Man Should Know

  • An Intersectional Approach to Sex Therapy: Centering the Lives of Indigenous, Racialized, and People of Color

  • Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

  • Attachment Theory in Practice: Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with Individuals, Couples, and Families

  • The Attachment Theory Workbook

  • The High-Conflict Couple: A Dialectical Behavior Therapy Guide to Finding Peace, Intimacy, and Validation

  • Phallacy: Life Lessons from the Animal Penis

LGBTQ+ Experience/Support

  • Sex Therapy with Erotically Marginalized Clients: Nine Principles of Clinical Support

  • Queering Sexual Violence - Radical Voices from Within the Anti-Violence Movement

  • Written on the Body

Mindfulness & Self Compassion

  • Living Untethered: Beyond the Human Predicament

  • Mindfulness Cards: Simple Practices for Everyday Life

  • The Mindfulness Coloring Book: Relaxing, Anti-Stress Nature Patterns and Soothing Designs

  • The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook: A Proven Way to Accept Yourself, Build Inner Strength, and Thrive

  • Tattoos on the Heart: The Power of Boundless Compassion

Parenting

  • Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be

  • The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How Their Brains Get Wired

  • Raising Good Humans: A Mindful Guide to Breaking the Cycle of Reactive Parenting and Raising Kind, Confident Kids

  • The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind

Religious Trauma & Deconstruction

  • The Universal Christ: How a Forgotten Reality Can Change Everything We See, Hope For, and Believe

  • Falling Upward: A Spirituality for the Two Halves of Life

  • Faith After Doubt: Why Your Beliefs Stopped Working and What to Do About It

  • A New Kind of Christianity: Ten Questions That Are Transforming the Faith

  • Inspired: Slaying Giants, Walking on Water, and Loving the Bible Again

  • Curveball: When Your Faith Takes Turns You Never Saw Coming

  • Sacred Wounds: A Path to Healing from Spiritual Trauma

  • You Are Your Own: A Reckoning with the Religious Trauma of Evangelical Christianity

  • Shameless: A Case for Not Feeling Bad About Feeling Good (About Sex)

  • Sex, God, and the Conservative Church

  • How the Bible Actually Works: In Which I Explain How An Ancient, Ambiguous, and Diverse Book Leads Us to Wisdom Rather Than Answers―and Why That's Great News

  • Love Wins: A Book About Heaven, Hell, and the Fate of Every Person Who Ever Lived

  • Bully Pulpit: Confronting the Problem of Spiritual Abuse in the Church

  • Jesus and John Wayne: How White Evangelicals Corrupted a Faith and Fractured a Nation

  • Original Blessing: Putting Sin in Its Rightful Place

  • Liberation Theologies in the United States: An Introduction

  • She Who Is (25th Anniversary Edition): The Mystery of God in Feminist Theological Discourse

  • Red Lip Theology: For Church Girls Who've Considered Tithing to the Beauty Supply Store When Sunday Morning Isn't Enough

  • Recovering from Biblical Manhood and Womanhood: How the Church Needs to Rediscover Her Purpose

  • Holy Envy: Finding God in the Faith of Others

  • The Rebirthing of God: Christianity's Struggle for New Beginnings

Spiritual Integration

  • Recipes for a Sacred Life: True Stories and a Few Miracles

  • Islamic Mystical Poetry: Sufi Verse from the Early Mystics to Rumi

  • The Penguin Book of Hebrew Verse

  • The Essential Rumi, New Expanded Edition

  • The Gift

  • All About Love: New Visions

  • The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love

  • To Speak a Defiant Word: Sermons and Speeches on Justice and Transformation

  • Joy Unspeakable: Contemplative Practices of the Black Church

  • The Wisdom of the Enneagram: The Complete Guide to Psychological and Spiritual Growth for the Nine Personality Types

  • Women Who Run With the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype

  • A Severe Mercy

  • We Sang a Dirge

  • A Book of Life

  • Belonging: Remembering Ourselves Home

  • The Soul of the Helper: Seven Stages to Seeing the Sacred Within Yourself So You Can See It in Others (Spirituality and Mental Health)

  • Becoming Rooted: One Hundred Days of Reconnecting with Sacred Earth

  • Braiding Sweetgrass: Indigenous Wisdom, Scientific Knowledge and the Teachings of Plants

  • Jesus and the Disinherited

  • The Alchemist, 25th Anniversary: A Fable About Following Your Dream

  • Awareness: Conversations with the Masters

  • The Inner Voice of Love: A Journey Through Anguish to Freedom

  • The Edge of Words: God and the Habits of Language

Therapy Approaches

  • Owning Your Own Shadow: Understanding the Dark Side of the Psyche

  • Shadow Work Journal for Black Men

  • Shadow Work Journal for Black Women

  • The Internal Family Systems (IFS) Flip Chart

  • Autonomic Nervous System Table: Laminated Card

  • Polyvagal Exercises for Safety and Connection: 50 Client-Centered Practices

  • Polyvagal Flip Chart: Understanding the Science of Safety

  • The Living Legacy of Trauma Flip Chart: A Psychoeducational In-Session Tool for Clients and Therapists

  • No Bad Parts

  • The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook

Trauma Healing

  • Polyvagal Card Deck: 58 Practices for Calm and Change

  • Anchored

  • My Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies

  • It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle

  • The Courage to Heal Workbook: A Guide for Women and Men Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse

  • Understanding and Treating Chronic Shame: A Relational/Neurobiological Approach

  • Widen the Window

  • Thriving in the Wake of Trauma